How do we know that something exists? We should see it, hear
it, touch it or we can say, it must pass through one of our senses or in some
cases through scientific experiments. Anything which is created by your
imagination and causing emotional/physical experience is just a construct of
your mind and does not exist in reality.
Why do you lament when someone close to you dies, does it
because of love (this is what you might be thinking), however, if you analyse
closely, you find that it’s not because of love, it is because of emptiness
which has been created in your mind for that person. Your mind creates memory, that is image of something, when these images get broken it makes
you sad. You have not realized but while crying your mind fetches hundreds of
images in fraction of seconds which is stored in your memory, and was created
when that person was alive. Your mind looks for same pleasure which you were
having when that person was alive, and when it finds that it will not be having
those moments, it breaks down. When some unknown person dies, it is just news
for you, you do not cry, why, because your mind does not have enough memories
about less known person to make you sad. So your sorrow, sadness, these are all
conditioning of mind. When conditioning changes, love changes. A changing fact
cannot be the fact.
Anthropology says that in all species, males are polygamous
and females are monogamous. What it means, it means, males are naturally inclined
to several females, whereas females are not. Your immediate purpose is just to
reproduce, and to achieve this, nature has given more affection between mother
and child rather than father and child. Until child is old enough to
survive by its own, someone must be there to take care of him. Therefore at
least one, out of two (parents), should be attached emotionally to child. female spider eats male spider after having procreation. female scorpion's children eat their own mother after birth.Though we have been so much
civilized, you can clearly see that many times majority of males are inclined
towards other females. This is what given by nature, then where love is, it is
all biological construct, love does not really exist.
Few say, true love is unconditional. There is nothing in
human relation which is unconditional. Young couples are getting butchered by their
own family members. Next generation is being evicted from property and society
for not obeying their parents. Old parents are being abandoned by their own
children for not adjusting with their life style. Girls dumped their boyfriends
for not getting enough attention, care and sometimes money. Boys dumped their
girlfriends for not finding her more supportive, attractive and sometimes lucrative.
Husband and wife, they get divorced for not being understood properly even
after marriage. Friends are getting separated because of ego clash. In all mentioned
cases (you might find some more),
those who are in relationship (any kind
of), must have some known/unknown conditions which actually is the cause of
their relationship/love. When conditions change, love changes.
