Life, an expression

Why do I write? Because I want to share something, why I want to share something, because I have something in my heart, in my mind which just wants to come out, and it wants to reveal itself. Does it really matter how many people read it, yes somewhat, but somewhere deep down actually it does not matter. Expression is mandatory, response is optional. Saying is an expression, writing is an expression, playing is an expression, singing, crying, chiding, loving are expressions. Each and every action of life is an expression. Life consists of expressions, nothing else. When you say someone ‘I love you’ you express yourself. When you say someone ‘you are cheater’ you express yourself. Science, literature, art, war, peace are expressions of life.

When you express something (irrespective of good and evil), your life goes one step ahead. You must say whatsoever you want to say. If you want to say something unexpected to your father, you should say it. If you decide not to say then sooner or later these unsaid thoughts will reveal itself in form of emotional burst. Hiding any kind of thought is unnatural. When any thought comes naturally and we find it in favor of someone, we say and praise that person. However we do not say anything which we think it can hurt someone. We do not say anything bad to anyone since this is what we have been told or we think so. Sometimes we do not say because we find that it might risk our relation, our promotion, our image (the most ridiculous). Expressing any kind of thought is the only way to improve something. Concealing can only make things worse.

Only expression causes a revolt, a change. Change for what, change for betterment. But how much change an expression can bring in your life is depend on you and the way you express it. When Gandhi-ji was pushed out of train in South Africa he could have slapped train ticket examiner, however he chose to express himself in different manner to root out racial discrimination.

Many times when you want to say something bad and you express it, you feel better, why so, because you do not hinder flow of life by revealing yourself. Even when you criticize someone in his/her absence you feel good, believe me if you have enough courage to say in front of him/her you are going to live best moment of your life.

When life does not find itself to reveal the way it wants to reveal, it takes another path which we call negativity. Some expression might risk your relation/job however you must say it, otherwise in lack of expression it causes emotional burst and depression. Not expressing yourself can cause more harm to you than expressing yourself. 

We have grown up

In childhood, I remember that one of my cousins was not ready to share his chocolates with one of his neighbour’s child. His father insisted a lot to share however he did not. His father ignored this situation by saying that they are children, when they grow up, they will understand.

And now they have grown up, but still do not share chocolates. So they do not share what should not be shared for their own benefits. In corporate, multinational companies and in other such offices, if you are new comer in team then it becomes herculean task to get any real knowledge transfer. Sometimes they show off to helping you since there might be some processes for knowledge transfer within team; however they are not ready to really share you the stuff.

Since there is only single cake, the more you are competent the more you will get of it. Some of you might not be agreeing with me on my last sentence, and you should not be since this is not always true, of course flattery, buttering and favours have its own role in your career.

They do not share knowledge properly since they feel insecure. Can you achieve anything great, grand without others contribution? The laptop, mobile, aeroplane, trains etc. which you are using is made and developed by groups not by a single man. You might get more appraisals in your annual performance by whatsoever reason; however, you can achieve more by sharing and working together. If your team achieves more, automatically you will achieve more (there might be differences in personal achievements within team). Now the question is, are you ready to share, help your team members when they are not? A collapsing system breaks the one who tries to stop it first. The company, the team, the society you are functioning in, needs competition to continue itself. To achieve anything extraordinary you must share.

In childhood, you wanted to have a cycle, today you need a car. You wanted to have a small kid’s house to play; today you need your own home. You wanted to be monitor of your class, today you want to be manager of your team. I really do not find any difference from childhood to adulthood desire. However sometimes it seems that childhood was better, do not know for what reason but it might be because of ignorance. I wonder if there is any real change in human nature.

Metaphor and reality

When I was in 11^th standard, there was a chapter in physics ‘potential and current ’. Physics teacher started teaching about ‘current’ and defined it as ‘flow of electrons’. One curious student asked how electrons flow in a wire. Teacher gave an example of water flowing into pipe. Student understood, satisfied and sat down. Few weeks later, when that student was doing some electrical fitting at his home he cuts a wire to tie into another one, and suddenly he realized that if current flows like water into a pipe, and if I cut a wire, flowing electrons must come out as water comes out of pipe. However it did not happen and never will.

Now the question is why teacher gave an example of water flowing into pipe. The reason is someone can understand something only in the language which is already known by him. It has been great practice from ancient time. But the reality is, there is never ever any example which can depict reality as it is. Anything which needs to be understood must be understood as it is not with any example whatsoever. Examples play a great role to understand anything, it can succeed to make you understand most of the thing of any topic, and however it will never ever provide the exact real understanding.

This is what happened at ancient time and gave rise to mythology. Since teachers, sages used examples to convey their messages. They used languages which were known to people at that time. As times passes, examples converted into stories, assumptions, and epitomes. This is clearly we can see in today’s world where people are very much indulge in symbols. They worship symbols and treat those as reality.

There are many instances where we cannot go ahead without metaphors. Literature has great deal with it. Without metaphors literature might not be complete. however while teaching , telling , discussing we must admit and keep it in mind that just to understand examples are being used, however these are not the reality and never can be. This is what we can give to out next generation to make them aware of what they are learning and not trapped with merely symbols and metaphors.

जाले

याद जेहन में , उभर आती है , 

जिस तरह जाले दीवार के कोनों में |

जाले गहरे हों तो मिटाने की कोशिश , चिपका देती है दीवार से |

कमरे में जालों को हटाने के लिए , मन बुनता है नया जाला

इस तरह जाले देते हैं जन्म एक और नए जाले को 

याद भी तो जन्म देती है नयी याद को |

क्या जाले मिटाये जा सकते हैं 

मिटाने की कोशिश ही तो जिन्दा रखती है उन्हें|

True love doesn’t exist

How do we know that something exists? We should see it, hear it, touch it or we can say, it must pass through one of our senses or in some cases through scientific experiments. Anything which is created by your imagination and causing emotional/physical experience is just a construct of your mind and does not exist in reality.

Why do you lament when someone close to you dies, does it because of love (this is what you might be thinking), however, if you analyse closely, you find that it’s not because of love, it is because of emptiness which has been created in your mind for that person. Your mind creates memory, that is image of something, when these images get broken it makes you sad. You have not realized but while crying your mind fetches hundreds of images in fraction of seconds which is stored in your memory, and was created when that person was alive. Your mind looks for same pleasure which you were having when that person was alive, and when it finds that it will not be having those moments, it breaks down. When some unknown person dies, it is just news for you, you do not cry, why, because your mind does not have enough memories about less known person to make you sad. So your sorrow, sadness, these are all conditioning of mind. When conditioning changes, love changes. A changing fact cannot be the fact.

Anthropology says that in all species, males are polygamous and females are monogamous. What it means, it means, males are naturally inclined to several females, whereas females are not. Your immediate purpose is just to reproduce, and to achieve this, nature has given more affection between mother and child rather than father and child. Until child is old enough to survive by its own, someone must be there to take care of him. Therefore at least one, out of two (parents), should be attached emotionally to child. female spider eats male spider after having procreation. female scorpion's children eat their own mother after birth.Though we have been so much civilized, you can clearly see that many times majority of males are inclined towards other females. This is what given by nature, then where love is, it is all biological construct, love does not really exist. 

Few say, true love is unconditional. There is nothing in human relation which is unconditional. Young couples are getting butchered by their own family members. Next generation is being evicted from property and society for not obeying their parents. Old parents are being abandoned by their own children for not adjusting with their life style. Girls dumped their boyfriends for not getting enough attention, care and sometimes money. Boys dumped their girlfriends for not finding her more supportive, attractive and sometimes lucrative. Husband and wife, they get divorced for not being understood properly even after marriage. Friends are getting separated because of ego clash. In all mentioned cases (you might find some more), those who are in relationship (any kind of), must have some known/unknown conditions which actually is the cause of their relationship/love. When conditions change, love changes.

इक नया भारत बनाना है

एक नयी आवाज है 

एक नया शोर है 

हम व्यवस्था बदलने आये हैं 

ये हंगामा चारो ओर है |

कुछ नया जब हो रहा हो

विरोध होना लाजमी है 

सत्ता बदलने को 

संकल्पित आम आदमी है |

लौ नयी जिसने जलाई 

घोर अविस्वास में 

उन्ही से युग जन्मा सदा 

हर काल के इतिहास में |

जो देता औरो को प्रकाश 

स्वयं जला करता है

उसके ही पदचिन्हों पे 

संसार चला करता है |

जैसे धरती फटती है 

विध्वंश ज्वाला जागती है 

उस भातिं इस देश की 

राजनीति परिवर्तन मागती है |

बदल दो हर इक व्यवस्था 

जितने हैं सरकार के 

हो खड़े विरुद्ध तुम 

आज भ्रस्टाचार के |

इक नयी प्रडाली दो 

तुम अपने समर्थ से 

नारी सुरख्सित हो 

और जिए गर्व से |

आओ ये संकल्प लें

सब सच कर दिखाना है

इस बार कि चढाई में 

परबत के पार जाना है |

इक नया भारत बनाना है 

इक नया भारत बनाना है |

Unstoppable change

                                                      

I recommend everyone to study history (particularly cultural); doctors, actors, IT professionals or whosoever want to understand how time changes and society changes for the betterment (Sometimes opposite of it) of human race.

There is change going on in Indian society because of love/social need/education i.e. inter cast/religion marriages. In past, only few powerful were privileged to do so. Therefore it is not new thing for Indian society, however this is the time when it should be supported more than ever any time in past. To be world power, more stable and to create unbiased society, India must look beyond cast and religion to avoid division of people at political, social, cultural and mental level.

Love marriages are playing a big role in creating such society. Mainly this generation is cause of this change, therefore they are going to bear price of this change. They have to fight with their parents, close relatives and society. People are being warned, tortured and killed for it; however it is keep increasing instead of being stopped.

Why society is against it? What do we gain by not allowing couple to marry? Owners of religion/society say that marriage should not be allowed in same community since they might be most likely to be sisters and brothers, which is why there should be minimum of seven generation gap(depends on society and culture) between bride and groom , if possible. Well, logical and scientific reasoning. Not allowing marriages in same community is related with human immune system . This cause is also supported by medical science. Otherwise the child which would get birth by marriage in same community will have fewer chances to survive and will have less susceptibility to deal with diseases. However, why people are against for marriages in different cast and religion, they are far apart from thousands of years, and there is no close relation at all. Is it  all because of their false pride of cast and religion.

If we see closely, we find that it is also concerned with social prestige. Parents think what society will say, what others will say, otherwise in maximum cases parents are agreed on inter cast/religion marriage for the happiness of their children. Prestige of anyone should be based on his/her moral views, education and values. It should not be based on social heredity or ancestral name and wealth.

Love marriages and its resistance is all because of self conflicting life philosophy. Parents are sending their children in co-education classes for better education and personality growth, and on the other hand they do not want their children to marry in different cast, how it is possible. First you are creating the surrounding for your children for inter-cast marriage and then opposing the same. Many times in our life we take many decisions which conflict itself at later point of time to have good/bad consequences.

I am really proud of such people who dare to take such steps and are cause of this change. They might be not aware of it but this is what their society needs it today badly. Entire Indian politics is based on cast/religion, we should think beyond cast/religion to achieve extraordinary. I hope, in next generation it should happen like nuclear chain reaction to have bigger impact for better and unbiased society. We are the cause of this change and I would like to say it evolution of human consciousness.